5 Ways to Become the Person You Want to Date

February 22, 2019

When it comes to love and dating, we all have an idea of who we want to be with. We have a mental list of all the qualities we’re looking for in a partner, and he’s just somewhere out there, waiting for us. The question is: will he be interested in dating you? If you are to ask yourself right now if you would date you, what will your answer be?

More than looking for love, you need to know how to attract the love you want. The right one isn’t going to be around the corner when you yourself don’t embody the same characteristics you’re looking for.

If you want a great guy, you must be great yourself, and to do that, you need to follow these tips:

1.Be yourself

Be it in person or on social media, you will only attract the wrong people if you wear a mask and pretend to be someone you’re not. You need to project the same energy you want in a person, and when you’re totally honest and authentic, you’ll surely attract the right match for you. You wouldn’t want to hang out with anyone who is not true to themselves. Be the kind of person you want to spend time with by being yourself, and you’ll surely find your potential partner in no time.

2.Invest in you and your goals

We all have our own goals and aspirations in life, and while finding the right person can be one of them, he is likely not going to fall for you if you don’t work on yourself and your aspirations. Improve yourself, your wellbeing, your self-care habits, and your approach towards your dreams, and you’ll find yourself stumbling upon the right person along the way. You want someone who inspires and pushes you to be better, and so does he.

3.Be in check with your values

Take the time to reflect on yourself and your values, and remember to practice what you preach. While morals and values are subjective, having integrity in who you are and what you stand for will attract people who have the same values as you. You yourself might think twice about dating someone who can’t make up their mind and establish their principles.

4.Adjust your expectations

Would you want to date someone whose standards are too high? If you expect perfection in everything, you can hardly find satisfaction whatever you do or whoever you meet. It’s a good thing to keep your expectations realistic and reasonable to avoid setting yourself up for disappointment. Try to find happiness in the essential, and you will naturally attract the person who also manages expectations right.

5.Love yourself

Wrapping up all the tips mentioned above, there is no one you need to love the most but yourself. Stop thinking that you need a “better half” to make you feel whole because you need to be self-sufficient in order to function optimally in a relationship. You are your own person, and you are whole as you are.